Mari Ahnefer
Neurodiversity and Neuroinclusion Expert │ Educator │ Certified Peer Counselor
I spent years thinking I was a dysfunctional horse. Turns out, I was always a perfectly normal zebra.
A lifelong feeling of being different - of not quite fitting in, of watching people like a fascinated anthropologist trying to decode human behavior - has led me down a path I never expected.
While others have always seemed to instinctively know the unwritten rules of society, as if reading a secret user manual, I was left with taking mental notes, analyzing patterns and trying to crack the code of how to be a Normal Human. Those same analytical skills that made me feel like an outsider became my superpower. They led me to understand that there isn't just one way to be human - there are as many ways as there are people. And every single one of them is valid.
My autism and ADHD diagnoses came in adulthood, long after I'd learned to adapt, mask, and work twice as hard just to survive in spaces designed for neurotypical minds. But here's what I discovered working in multiple functions, companies, and industries: our workplaces aren’t just broken by accident. They were designed for the mythical “average employee” - easy to manage, predictable to scale. But that average employee is a statistical fiction. The result? Workplaces that serve no one particularly well, while neurodivergent minds simply can't cope with the dysfunction everyone else barely tolerates.
I've seen brilliant neurodivergent minds burn out trying to be something they're not. I've watched innovation and potential get buried under impossible expectations and zero support. I've heard the silence of people too afraid to speak up, too afraid to be seen as "difficult" or "less than". And when they do speak up, they are often told to “stop complaining” and “try harder”. Or find a new job. Because surely a fish can climb a tree if it just tries hard enough.
But I've also seen what happens when we level the playing field. When we remove the unnecessary obstacles. When we stop asking zebras to be horses and start celebrating what makes each and every one of us extraordinary.
This isn't just about neurodivergent people - it's about creating a world where everyone gets to be their authentic selves. Where your natural way of processing and interacting with the world becomes your strength, not something to hide. Where the playing field is fair for everyone, not just the loudest voices in the room.
I speak up not just for myself, but for every person who's been told they're too much or not enough. For everyone working twice as hard for half the recognition. For those who haven't found their voice yet, or don't even know they're zebras.
The science is complex, but the truth is beautifully simple: diversity of minds creates better outcomes for everyone.
My job? To translate that complexity into conversations that matter. To turn research into real change. To help organizations see that accommodating different minds isn't a burden or a social project - it's smart business that brings results.
Because when zebras get to be zebras, everyone wins.